I don’t post much a bout the little girls as it’s unpleasant. However this is a good photo summation and they are VERY much part of our family. Vala has Reactive Attatchment Disorder, PTSD, and ADHD. When she feels ANY negative emotion (only at home she’s awesome for others) she’ll toilet all over herself to punish the rest of us. Today she was mad that she needed to actually DO her homework. But not really. Really, she’s freaking out about having seen the new house yesterday that we’ve been talking about for weeks and the new house becoming a reality. With Vala it doesn’t matter how much we emotionally prep her ANY change is met with LOTS of negative maladaptive cooping. Zoe isn’t much better with her Oppositional Defiance Disorder and PTSD. Zoe’s go to is poop. She either leaves a log int the toilet for someone to discover, smears it somewhere, or just goes in her pants to punish us for her negative feelings about anything.

Both girls HATE that they have to clean their own messes. But they DO have to clean their own messes. As a result of weaponizing their bodily functions they no longer get family furniture privileges. They have their own chairs in the rooms that they new toilet on. Parenting R.A.D, O.D.D, ADAH, and PTSD is exhausting. Living in this environment is exhausting. It’s loud (Vala screams for hours) and smells terrible. So not a lot gets posted about the girls because it’s simply unpleasant.

They are safe, cared for and yes, loved. Even when they don’t feel loved. We take it one day and often one hour at a time.